Quarrels…
I was on the way to work this morning and listening to “A Slice of Life” on radio. They were talking about the common or rather the Top 5 causes of quarrels amongst couples. They were 1) Money 2)Sex and 3)Work 4)Children and 5)Housework. Apparently, according to some studies or the other, couples talk about money at least once a week. What I found interesting was their take on that though money was the subject/focus, it also implied power play and one person having a foothold in the argument cos of higher earning power. Think for Iz and ourselves, the issue of having one earn more than the other is never an issue cos more money is always good. Regardless of who earns it , it goes to the family anyway. But think the issue we both have to deal with and be constantly aware of is how not to overspend and save for a rainy day. That is definitely something we both need to/are working on. Especially with the migration pending and also the little fella. Cannot afford to be too easy and irresponsible with money anymore. That said, I do like to pamper myself once in a while. Won’t it be so sad and boring if I had to scrimp and save all the time?
Of course apart from us, I was thinking about D&M.If they are constantly arguing about money and sex, does it mean their marriage is doomed to fail? Who is right and who is wrong or rather what is right and what is wrong? I also haven’t the slightest clue….
Posted: January 24th, 2007 under Family, Marriage.
Comments: 2
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Comment from Jack
Time: March 10, 2007, 11:37 am
Can I comment? Thanks :o) I reckon that every couple knows well before they are married whether they are going to have arguments about money. Whether they listen to there instincts about this is another matter. Some people dont want to listen to this little voice inside warning them, because they are desperate and want to marry. Those who dont listen to the little voice are in for a future divorce, or an unhappy life in the future for them and any children they have. I think if the couple are arguing about money, then there isnt going to be much of the good stuff going on there either(sex i mean). After all money is the root of all evil isnt it? Im a real romantic bloke(dont tell anyone plz)and I believe that if two people really love each other there wouldnt be any arguments about money ever, no matter what the situation. Wot say you lady?
Cheerio!
Comment from Wendy
Time: May 8, 2007, 10:08 am
Hi Jack, Thanks for taking the time to visit my blog and for commenting. I do agree that money and sex issues are perhaps inter-related. When one area of married life is not going well, it will inadvertantly affect the other areas as well. However, I am not quite sure about whether a couple can pre-empt arguments about money. I do believe that sometimes issues arise along the course of married life. And also..it would be hard not to have any arguments. What is important is how they are resolved, in a loving manner.
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