I was on the way to work this morning and listening to “A Slice of Life” on radio. They were talking about the common or rather the Top 5 causes of quarrels amongst couples. They were 1) Money 2)Sex and 3)Work 4)Children and 5)Housework. Apparently, according to some studies or the other, couples talk about money at least once a week. What I found interesting was their take on that though money was the subject/focus, it also implied power play and one person having a foothold in the argument cos of higher earning power. Think for Iz and ourselves, the issue of having one earn more than the other is never an issue cos more money is always good. Regardless of who earns it , it goes to the family anyway. But think the issue we both have to deal with and be constantly aware of is how not to overspend and save for a rainy day. That is definitely something we both need to/are working on. Especially with the migration pending and also the little fella. Cannot afford to be too easy and irresponsible with money anymore. That said, I do like to pamper myself once in a while. Won’t it be so sad and boring if I had to scrimp and save all the time?

Of course apart from us, I was thinking about D&M.If they are constantly arguing about money and sex, does it mean their marriage is doomed to fail? Who is right and who is wrong or rather what is right and what is wrong? I also haven’t the slightest clue….

Posted: January 24th, 2007 under Family, Marriage.
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Hmm…dun really know who to believe or who I should believe. Perhaps I dun really want to know the truth cos it confuses and disappoints. I would like to maintain the perfect image that I have always had. Can I ? Somehow I feel like my bubble has been shattered and my hopes dashed. I am caughtl between ethics and believing in the ‘right’ thing and believing in what I want to believe it. Sounds confusing, dosen’t it? Perhaps this is reflective of my state of mind now. Double sigh…

I went for a BBQ last weekend to celebrate Jona’s anniversary and we had fun. The little fella warmed up after a little while and he was enjoying himself playing, wandering around and amusing people with his antics. He was so sweet and adorable…even if I do say so myself. It dawned on me that he is no longer a baby who needs lots of cuddles and basic caregiving. Lots of cuddles he still needs but now he also needs to be taught. Think the ’educating’ part has to come in already.He has to be taught what is right and good, what he cannot do etc etc. Hard to resist him esp when he smiles and cuddles up but guess at times got to be firm too. Really dun want him to be like one of those unruly kids we see around. 

Posted: January 23rd, 2007 under Uncategorized.
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It has been a while….lots of stuff have been happening just that I haven’t felt like blogging much. No particular reason why just din feel like doing it. Our wedding anniversary came and went. It was a great date day and I reckon we shud have date days more often. We went to Royal China for lunch after a nice relaxing morning. Food was great but what was nicer was the memories it brought back. The wedding..the post-wedding stay at RH… Am glad to say that even after 2 years and a kid, I still look forward to our date days and all that comes along with couplehood. Was so surprised that I actually got a solitaire as a pressie…expected a ring but not a solitaire. Had a GIA cert somemore. It is still in the shops getting re-sized but I sure am looking forward to wearing it.

Bot Iz a Macbook Pro ….something that he has been bugging me for. Think it means cheap lunches/dinners for a while but well…..will just make do lah. But well…he dosen’t shop a lot but I guess a major purchase is quite justifiable.Looks-wise, the Macbook Pro looks exactly the same as the powerbook but he says it is faster and all.

AND we finally finally submitted the last lot ( I hope) of documents. I am really getting excited about the shift as it comes closer to reality.I am OK with living here but I really want to shift Down Under.Must just pray that everything will go smoothly including looking for a job. That I reckon is the most important….Can u imagine the magnitude of this whole thing????

Posted: January 19th, 2007 under Uncategorized.
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• One tries to find a solution to a problem that has no solution
• One tries to find answers to question that cannot be answered
• One spends hours talking about the same issues over and over again
• Old issues are visited and hurts re-surface
• One tries to shut the other up by simply saying “I dun want to talk to you anymore.”
• One spends more time getting angry rather on things which have happened rather than move ahead

Perhaps there is really no right and wrong anymore, it is just a matter of each doing what they think is right. So…a perceived notion of right and wrong.

Posted: January 3rd, 2007 under Uncategorized.
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