I was talking to S yesterday about having kids. And said I would be very excited when she gets a kid.Anyway..that set me thinking a little bit. Is there such thing as an ideal time to have kids? After marriage …yeah..but when after marriage? For us, M came along really quickly.About 5 weeks or so after our wedding, I sensed something was amiss and thought that I might be pregnant. And lo and behold…after 3 home-tests and a visit to the gynae, all was confirmed :) So very quickly after the wedding and all, we had to not only get used to being husband and wife but also to being daddy and mummy-to-be. 

Sometimes I wish we had more couple time and more time to enjoy each other’s company first…to go travel….to go watch more midnight movies etc. But sometimes I think it was good M came along early cos I would then be younger and more able to keep up with him. And most importantly, M would not be who he is now if it was a different pregnancy. And I love him for just who is…tantrums and all. He is such a little cheeky fella and all it takes is a chuckle or smile from him to wipe away all tiredness. He is also very affectionate and loves to cuddle. It is funny to see him kissing his own reflection in the mirror or his photo. Hehe…shall not digress.I can go on and on abt M.

So after all these thinking about when is the right timing, I reckon there is no right or wrong timing. Each would have its goods and bads and it is also how we choose to react to it. We still got our couple time, only difference was that I was pregnant. By the time we went for our honeymoon, I was already about 4 mths pregnant. The good/great/marvellous thing is that I never did get any morning sickness at all. Apart from the occasional throwing up from eating the wrong thing and the gastric-ky feeling in the first trimesterm pregnancy was a breeze. In fact, I enjoyed my pregnancy right up to the time M was born. It was great too that we had a wonderful gynae who was totally reassuring and did not make me do this or do that. Even sashimi was OK he said, as long as it was fresh.Hmm…sometimes I miss being pregnant but the first couple of months after delivery is another story altogether

All in all, I reckon that even if we could turn back the clock, I still want to get married when I did and get pregnant when I did And of course, I still want to be married to the same person.